How to use a Mala:
There are some very "official" ways to use a Mala, but I have adapted to a more simplified way. There's no wrong way to meditate if you're benefiting from the practice, and worrying about doing it wrong can easily discourage someone from even trying. I'll share with you the way I've benefitted the most from using a Mala.
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Starting next to the guru bead,
move your fingers from one counting
bead to the next as you say
affirmations, mantras, or simply
breathing in and out with each bead.
Once you've returned to the guru bead,
you have completed a full meditation!
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Easy, right? If you want to get a little more detailed, use your thumb and middle finger to move from bead to bead. Since the pointer finger represents the Ego and it's good practice to keep our egos out the way, avoid using your pointer finger to hold the beads. When you reach the guru bead after making it all the way around, you can turn the Mala over to start again if you wish to continue meditating. It's okay if you don't make it all the way around, but it's a good goal to complete at least one revolution each time you meditate.
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WHAT ARE AFFIRMATIONS?
Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts.
WHY USE AFFIRMATIONS?
It is human nature that we are more likely to remember negative events instead of positive ones. Think about it- you can probably remember more hurtful things that people have said to you than compliments, and recall more scary moments than peaceful ones. We are biologically predisposed to remember the things that hurt us as a survival mechanism. The problem with that is that we can easily get stuck in a loop of negative thinking- particularly if you are living in survival mode with a dysregulated nervous system. It takes effort to shift our mindsets into a more positive one, and requires regular and consistent practice to make it stick. It is so worth the effort because of how much positive change it creates inside of us, and in every aspect of our lives. In this way, meditation with a Mala is a form of cognitive-behavioral therapy. Our subconscious learns through repetition, and 108 counting beads on a Mala is a wonderful way to achieve that! To make the affirmations most effective, FEEL the words as you're saying them. Even if you're not 100% sold on their validity, believe them as fact for the time you are using them for meditation- that is what makes them effective. Words and the intention behind them are very powerful, and when done in repetition, the impact is magnified. This is why repeating affirmations can make positive shifts in every aspect of your life.
WHERE CAN I FIND AFFIRMATIONS?
As part of my own self-healing journey, I wrote many affirmations for different purposes and am currently creating a page for them all, so stay tuned!
A WORD ABOUT MEDITATION.
The deepest healing occurs in a state of relaxation which is just one reason why meditation is so beneficial. Meditation is like exercising a mental muscle- focusing on one thing at a time or nothing at all. Our minds naturally wander, and that's okay. The more you practice, the easier it gets (just like when exercising other muscles). This mental exercise helps your thoughts become more organized, selective, and calm. Meditating isn't avoiding problems; it helps us handle them better. There are countless ways to meditate: some include guided meditation using visualization techniques, breath work, repeating mantras, yoga meditation, even some hobbies are meditative. It's wonderful that there are so many options that give people choices to see what works best for them. As someone with ADHD who is very easily distracted, I wanted a way to meditate that did not require the use of my phone or another person, and the Mala is where I found the most success. The tangibility of the Mala made it even more effective for me.
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Mala meditation combines
powerful affirmations with
repetition and relaxation-
an ideal combination for healing!
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While it is not necessary to use a Mala to say affirmations, they are extremely helpful for keeping yourself on track from start to finish, and a beautiful reminder to keep meditation a regular part of your routine!